It may sound strange, but an orgasm ensures a good mood. It is something that is shown in each movie with a lovescene, and yet it is rather rare in the average bedroom to orgasm together. Of course, the media doesn’t really show a very accurate picture of orgasming together, since in practice, it is not so evident.
However, with a few tricks you can try to put the romance back in the bedroom, relax and find the ultimate pleasure together.
1. Honesty
It sounds very cliché, but it is true. Dare to open yourself to your partner, and be honest with each other, but also to yourself.
Orgasming together is not a must! The more you want to achieve it, the greater the chance that one of you is under so much stress that he or she does not even reach an orgasm.
Get familiar. Try to remember the last time you made love. What got you excited, fantasies which helped you to get an orgasm? Where is the point just before you orgasm?
Talk about it with each other. Tell each other what you like and what you don’t like. Do you like it when your partner whispers dirty words? Do you prefer to make love in bed, or on the table in the kitchen? Do you like to watch a movie during or up front?
Also show your partner is good and what is not. This can be both verbal and non-verbal. Respond physically to what your partner does if you like it.
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2. The right atmosphere
Try extended foreplay. This can be both orally and manually. The aim is to ensure that you hit the same state of arousal. Also, try to take the stress off, you don’t have to orgasm together to have good sex. It is a plus, not a must! And making it a must will only make it harder to achieve.
Provide variety. The more you change positions, the longer you remain excited. But do make sure it does not exhaust you or your partner.
Book time! Make an appointment in the bedroom. Also, be on time, both of you. An intimate little hotel room is certainly not bad idea. Place some candles, massage oil, put on the heating and enjoy. Relax!
3. Timing
A man has much more control over his ejaculation when it is his second orgasm. Therefor it often isnt a bad idea to ensure that the man already had an orgasm. This makes for a lot less stress to both parties.
As a woman you can indicate that your orgasm is coming by using your pelvic floor muscles . This will also get your partner more excited and may just be the perfect way to come together.
Is the man reaching his orgasm much faster than the woman? Stimulate the woman manually or orally until just before she has an orgasm. That is the perfect time for penetration and is called bridging technique. Penetration will then take over the stimulation of the clitoris. This can also be a great way to reach an orgasm together.
4. Helpful Techniques
The missionary position: as a man, try to keep moving your pelvis at the same height. The woman penetrated from quite high and this stimulates the clitoris too. Moving your pelvis sideways can also be a good technique.
Woman on top: the advantage for a woman riding on top of your man is that you feel very well how your clitoris is best stimulated, and which pace you need to hold to reach an orgasm the easiest.
Doggy style, while your guy is behind you, you can stimulate your own clitoris. If you know each others body well enough, your man can even help you with this. This even work very stimulating for both of you!
We hope these little tips help you in your bedroom adventures, and will increase the satisfaction you get from your sexlife. Feel free to tell us in the comment section how it worked for you.